‎ *** My Thought of the Day***

Kuuleme T. Stephens

In light of the recent events that are being circulated in the media and all over the web (The Zimmerman case). In order to stop violence in the Black Community, we must educate our Black Community. Most violence in our community is Black on Black crime.

If we want to be treated as equals, we must stop behaving like thugs and animals. Respect is earned, not given. If it walks like a duck……… How can we expect anyone to see the Black Community as anything respectable when we don’t care enough about ourselves to act responsible or civil???

Black folks, this starts at home. Educate your children, teach them that there is more to life than drug dealing, stealing, violence, and rapping. Take them to church and encourage them to stay in school, bring good morals into your homes, and set a good example for our children. Teach them self-respect and personal responsibility. Stop instilling failure from the get go.

Once this begins to happen, the rest will fall into place!!!!!!

P.S. Black folk, for those of you who wish to remain ignorant and act a fool…… You’re only making it harder for those who choose to do better for themselves and the Black Community as a whole. I refuse to be taken down with you, so SHAPE UP OR SHIP OUT!!!!!! Planes and boats leave the United States to Africa everyday!!! :) Call me self hating if you want to, but I will take being called a Race Trader, Aunt Jemima, Uncle Tom, Graham Cracker, Oreo, or any other derogatory term that people like to throw at me better than being called Ignorant, Uncivil, Uneducated, or a Thug………..

45 thoughts on “‎ *** My Thought of the Day***

  1. cease with the “blame the victim” rhetoric. yes, young folk have to be equipped with cultural intelligence which includes negotiating being harassed by cops or others on the streets — but it is never what you wear, how you walk, how you speak, whether you eyeball someone or how many “massas” you can get out of your mouth. whether you are identified by others as a girl or a boy or are met with confusion, it is NEVER your fault that bigotry and violent hatred exist and may impact you. it is NOT trayvon’s parents’ fault! folk should be able to walk the street naked like jason russell of invisible children without violence or harassment. it is not the fault of the parents or the person affected by harassment and street violence. it is always, ALWAYS, the perpetrator’s fault.

    survival skills are not a guarantees, they merely hope to lessen the probability of danger until one is in a better position to FIGHT BACK.

    • No one blamed the victim here! What was stated was to take some personal responsibility and teach our young folks that there is more than gang banging and the thug life to choose as role models and fashion statements in life. BUT,to some extent….. it is our (the Black Community) own fault. No one would have these concepts of our Black Community if they were all dress as if they were going to church now would they???? No one would look at our youth this way if they didn’t idolized these rappers, football players, and gang bangers instead of good role models like Martin Luther King, and many other educated successful Blacks who clearly stand against the types of behavior associated with the thug lifestyle.

      • trayvon martin was NOT a thug or gang banger! wearing a hoodie is not gang banger or thug attire! it is absolutely ridiculous to state that street harassment and violence would not exist if people dressed as if they were going to church. martin luther king, (NOT a Black conservative, by the way) is among the many who have dressed accordingly and were met regularly with racism, racial discrimination, harassment, street violence, incarceration and murder. you are blaming the victim and ignoring the perpetrators — the ones actually in control of violent and/or discriminatory behavior.

        it makes me wonder if you actually took any time to read the article on my blog that you’ve referenced in yours or if it simply that you are unable to comprehend it. at any rate, i’ll thank you to stay off my page.

      • I didn’t mean to reference your blog on my word press. I meant to hit the one below it. Don’t worry, I won’t be on your page. Like I said I wasn’t trying to hit yours in the first place. I am fairly new at word press. The link to yours has been removed. Have a good day!!! :)

  2. I found your comment on my blog very interesting however I have not read anywhere that Trayvon Martin was thug or carried himself as a thug.

    I don’t appreciate you commenting on my post and twisting what the post is really about.

    I understand the point you presented however I don’t think it was appropriate to use this case as an example. Why not use a case that you know of whereby it can be used to help with presenting your point.

    You say, “If we want to be treated as equals, we must stop behaving like thugs and animals. Respect is earned, not given. If it walks like a duck……… How can we expect anyone to see the Black Community as anything respectable when we don’t care enough about ourselves to act responsible or civil???

    Black folks, this starts at home. Educate your children, teach them that there is more to life than drug dealing, stealing, violence, and rapping. Take them to church and encourage them to stay in school, bring good morals into your homes, and set a good example for our children. Teach them self-respect and personal responsibility. Stop instilling failure from the get go.

    Once this begins to happen, the rest will fall into place!!!!!!”

    I am going to use Trayvon Martin as an example to make a point however this is without knowing him or his family and friends. So if Trayvon met all of the criteria above didn’t behave like a thug or an animal and the rest but still was killed, then the real problem is not with Trayvon but with the killer. But just maybe you know something about Trayvon that I do not however I nothing do gives a person the right to take another person’s life when it is not self-defense.

    Curmilus Dancy II

    http://www.thepoliticalagitator.com

    • Actually the news has much changed since the beginning when this was first brought to light in this case. I don’t know if you have been keeping up to date. The purpose of my post was to stress that behaviors and the outlook on the Black community begins at home no matter what the situation. It was to encourage our Black community to educate, and teach good values to their children. Give them some positive role models instead of these hoodie wearing thugs to look up to. If we can change that then we won’t have more people dying in this manner because people are afraid of a Black male in a hoodie.

    • People speak that way because race issues touch a nerve, especially in the Black Community where they are used to using race as a get out of free card for everything! Thank you for reading though!!! :)

      • You’re welcome. I hesitate to comment sometimes, because I’m of Irish-German extraction — but, you know, rude is just rude, and if the person who was ugly didn’t apologize, I didn’t think it would be untoward for me to tell you someone else noticed and wished he (I assume) had not addressed you so impolitely!

  3. In re: Actually the news has much changed since the beginning when this was first brought to light in this case. I don’t know if you have been keeping up to date.

    (Keeping up to date? Not even going there.) C. Dancy II – TPA

    The purpose of my post was to stress that behaviors and the outlook on the Black community begins at home no matter what the situation. It was to encourage our Black community to educate, and teach good values to their children.

    (I have said this over the years and I am with you.) C. Dancy II – TPA

    Give them some positive role models instead of these hoodie wearing thugs to look up to. If we can change that then we won’t have more people dying in this manner because people are afraid of a Black male in a hoodie.

    (I wear a hoodie during the winter because I purchased it from the high school basketball team whereby I volunteer to video the their games and the middle school games out of my pocket using my camera, purchasing the dvds and take care of my travel expense. My son wears a hoodie. I damn sure ain’t a thug and my son is neither so I take offense to the hoodie wearing thugs.

    From what I read and seen on tv it was far from a black male just wearing a hoodie. He was not committing a crime and didn’t deserve to be killed be it a White person, Hispanic, Black or other.

    So you have confirmed what I stated in a post on my blog, “

  4. New facts released have said when the young man was shot, he was on top of the man with the gun. It was stated that the young man was on top of Zimmerman and beating him. There are two witnesses that have come forward now that corroborate that story which is partially why the police department did not arrest and hold the 28y/o man Zimmerman. I am in no way condoning the shooting when I make that statement though. What I am saying is that we can fix this stereotyping in our Black Community if we go back to basics and start promoting good morals and values. I highly doubt this would have happened had the young man been dressed like he was going to church or a job interview.

    Also, people were quick to jump on the racism train without knowing all of the facts when this was first brought to light back in February. A lot of that is due to people like Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson who can find racism in a can of olives. They are lining their pockets with money from the people they are claiming to help, yet fueling hatred and promoting the use of the race card for personal failures and responsibilities.

    My daughter wears hoodies as well. It’s not necessarily the hoodie that set this off. It’s the view and concept that people have of others wearing the hoodies and the numerous entertainment and thug role models (who commit crimes and do drugs which our youth and some adults still living as youths find so cool) and promote the “thug life” wearing the hoodies that make the hoodies “bad”. It is also pretty easy to tell when a person is wearing a hoodie because of the weather or exercising.

    I used this example on my Facebook page earlier:
    If you see a female in a short short tight skirt or shorts, wearing 7 inch heels, make up, hair and nails done, with all ones and fives in her purse, people don’t assume they are a nursing student, mother, or waitresses at a local Denny’s or IHOP. They usually assume they are a stripper. Also, when you see two males males in black dress slacks, white dress shirts, in pairs, coming up to your door, people usually assume they are Jehovah Witness’s. So that is why I say if it walks like a duck…

    Also, I don’t believe this is just a Black problem because every culture needs to educate, teach, and provide better role models for their children. I only tend to focus on the Black Community because it’s the community I am apart of. People outside of the Black Community would not be so apprehensive of a Black male in a hoodie (or anyone of any race in a hoodie for that matter), if the negative connotation weren’t attached. Most every occasion you see in the media when they are reporting on a ATM robbery, Bank robbery, Convenience Store robbery, Gas Station robbery, and numerous other places, they are being robbed and/or assaulted by a person (of any color or race) in a hoodie.

    This big of a change begins in the home. So, instead of it being focused on a a race issue, maybe people ought to take the time and start figuring out ways to solve the problem. Justice will be served on Zimmerman in time, but mean while, let’s begin to work on a solution so it doesn’t happen again!!! :)

    • The truth hurts at times. Why am I a disgrace? I would think that the people in our Black Community that are setting these negative connotations and images are the disgraces. Our youth are being killed over hoodies, clothing color, gold chains and shoes and more. And you dare to call yourself Rational???? The only “rational” thing we should be doing here is keeping our youth out of the streets, encouraging education, and taking them back to church. The role models that they idolize encourage bad behavior and set an image that affect everyone in our Black Community. I speak about uplifting the Black Community and you get upset???? Is it the work that will have to happen to make our community better that frightens you??? It’s going to take a lot of hard work and you might loose some of your free time and have to actually spend time at home with your children. People will also have to better themselves in the process in order to give our children better role models to look up to. Or was it the facts of case that got you so riled up??? Facts are facts, so are you wanting to turn a blind eye to the facts just because the young man was more Black than Zimmerman??? And I say more Black because Zimmerman’s mother is of Peruvian decent which has 3% Black in it. So, I ask you again, why would I be a disgrace?????

  5. Kuluume,

    I get what you are saying. Rational does not understand. No matter what the race. Morals start at home. When did we start to dress so badly, talk so violently and address each other with such disdain? When they put the black man back onto the plantation? With welfare and the taking GOD and fathers out of the family.
    I am sure you will take a lot of head for the rest of your life like Deneen Borelli, but I want you and your fellow bloggers to know that there are people praying for you and your safety. God Bless

  6. Thanks you for reading my blog Lisa! As soon as people start to figure out that changes have to come from with in and in the home, it will make things a lot easier for everyone and race won’t be such a heated issue! :)

    • You think you’re the first black person to speak out about black on black crime? That just demonstrates how far removed from the black community you are. For you to use this tragedy as a platform to address black on black crime is beyond ignorant and callous.

      • No IRRATIONAL, I don’t think I’m the first person to speak on the issue. But, I do know there are more people ignoring the issue in the Black Community then are willing to fix the problem. You may think in your so-called “rational” mind that it is callous, but I think it’s perfect timing if we want to fix the problem and this type of thing doesn’t happen again. Grow up……..

      • What’s your “Rational” explanation to this one????

        March 26th – It was unseasonably warm in Chicago on St. Patrick’s Day. Six-year-old Aliyah Shell was on her front porch getting her hair combed by her mother. The young girl was preparing to attend a birthday party. Suddenly, shots were fired from a passing pickup truck. Aliyah was pronounced dead shortly thereafter. I must have missed the MSNBC coverage. Or Jesse Jackson’s outrage. Or Al Sharpton’s. Or if O thought a third daughter would have looked like Aliyah. Aliyah was one of 49 SHOT, 10 FATALLY, in Chicago that weekend. Wonder how many of those shooters are still at large? Very strange how certain people find some lives more valuable than others.

        Still want to stick to your guns???? This whole story on Martin and Zimmerman was hand picked for a reason. To fuel more hate and fill our “so-called” Black Leaders pockets. ……..

    • You can shed light on other tragedies without making light of the murder of Trayvon Martin. You don’t really care about those other lives.

      • Goes to show you don’t really know me!!!! What this does show is that you don’t care about yourself or the Black Community with all of your “rational” ignorance……

      • No one, including myself takes ANYONE dying lightly, “Irrational”. Especially when one is at such a young age in life. You would be a fool to say such things or just plain ignorant if you believe that. One life does not mean any more than another though in my book. But a lot of people and the media seem to think so. So while you sit back and make your oh so “rational” comments (not knowing me personally, yet claiming to know what I think and how I feel), ask yourself, does one life mean more to you than another?????? It must…….Put on your big boy or girl panties and use your head for once since you want to keep replying…….

  7. I just read your personal blog, explains a lot. You seem like a lost cause, but I’m really concerned about your “mixed race” child. My best friend is bi-racial and was raised by white family members that taught her to equate black with bad, and white with good. Because of that she has identity issues, along with no sense of pride in her “black side”. It’s really sad to see, but the more we hang out, the more enlightened she becomes.

    • Yes, my daughter is bi-racial! I don’t view things as a lost cause and that is why I keep speaking up about a lot of different issues! Not, just issues of the Black community either, I address a lot of different stuff everyday that most people would say are lost causes. My daughter has many different ethnicities in her heritage. Black, Choctaw, Cherokee, German, Irish, French, Sicilian, and British to name a few. She doesn’t struggle with an identity crisis issue because she is very proud of her diverse mixture and thinks of herself as cultured! When people ask her what she is she very proudly responds “I’m an American, what are you?”!!!!

      • I apologize for calling you a lost cause. You’re absolutely right to keep hope alive. It’s never too late to see the light.

      • And I will say that Britain is one of the most level-headed kids I’ve seen. She has great reason to have pride in who she is, of which bloodline is but a tiny part. My kid’s a mutt, too: English, Scottish, and 3 different sub-groups of Chinese.

        It isn’t blood; it’s the culture one accepts. The goal is to get the kids to accept good culture and values, not the self-destructive ones; and that’s a color-blind issue.

      • Yes, he turned himself. This is what I have been saying, there would be Justice if people would give the system time to work. Everyone deserves their day in court no matter what color they are. We should not convict people in the court of opinion. What we should be doing is, looking at how we can improve things in the community so this does not happen again!

      • And I don’t care if the entire 2nd amendment is done away with. The founding fathers didn’t write it for automatic handguns anyway.

  8. Yeah, Rational; let’s leave all those women out there defenseless against rapists and muggers. I just re-qualified for my CHL last month and the class was about 40-45% women, an increase from about 25-30% when I first qualified.
    ‘Stand your ground’ doesn’t even APPLY to the Marting case in ANY regard. The pursuit without cause- and having the training Zimmerman had (meaning he should have known better)- is likely worth negligent homicide at minumum. A murder conviction I don’t expect; a jury will probably give him Man 2 (and he might even plead out, which happens all the time).

    • Ok then superhero, how many women have you saved with your CHL? I support the right to bear arms on your property, but nobody needs to walk around with a gun.

      • ‘Using cross-sectional time-series data for U.S. counties from 1977 to 1992, we
        find that allowing citizens to carry concealed weapons deters violent crimes, without
        increasing accidental deaths. If those states without right-to-carry concealed gun
        provisions had adopted them in 1992, county- and state-level data indicate that approximately
        1,500 murders would have been avoided yearly. Similarly, we predict
        that rapes would have declined by over 4,000, robbery by over 11,000, and aggravated
        assaults by over 60,000. We also find criminals substituting into property
        crimes involving stealth, where the probability of contact between the criminal and
        the victim is minimal. Further, higher arrest and conviction rates consistently reduce
        crime. The estimated annual gain from all remaining states adopting these laws was
        at least $5.74 billion in 1992. The annual social benefit from an additional concealed
        handgun permit is as high as $5,000.”

        http://www.kc3.com/pdf/lott.pdf

      • I carry concealed all of the time. Most places allow you to do so. If a business does not allow you to carry weapons such as many bars, banks, welfare offices, schools, and post offices, they are clearly marked. I myself would rather be armed when I am outside my home, rather than unarmed, because criminals don’t care if you are in your home or not, and they carry weapons when ever where ever. Just because you are allowed to carry concealed doesn’t mean you are going to use them indiscriminately. I have had to pull my weapon numerous times, but the visual of having it was enough and I did not have to fire. The criminals and thugs don’t care about a CHL, but the people who have one have peace of mind knowing that they can protect themselves from the criminals and thugs should the need arise. Most people that carry concealed, you wouldn’t know they were carrying unless they told you. More people carry concealed than you think you know……….

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